“In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways, and they’re still beautiful.” – Alice Walker
I am currently reading ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise L. Hay, again. It’s one of those books you need to read once, and the second time you read it you need to do all the exercises. And being the proud father of a 10 month old I seem to look at life slightly differently and notice things I didn’t notice in the past. Below is a passage from the book that didn’t have as much meaning to me the first time I read it, (before young Adam arrived).
The Perfection of Babies
How perfect you were when you were a tiny baby. Babies do not have to do anything to become perfect; they already are perfect, and they act as if they know it. They know they are the center of the Universe. They are not afraid to ask for what they want. They freely express their emotions. You know when a baby is angry-in fact, the whole neighbourhood knows. You also know when babies are happy, for their smiles light up a room. They are full of love.
Tiny babies will die if they do not get love. Once we are older, we learn to live without love, but babies will not stand for it. Babies also love every part of their bodies, even their own feces. They have incredible courage.
You were like that. We were all like that. Then we began to listen to adults around us who had learned to be fearful, and we began to deny our own magnificence.
I never believe it when clients try to convince me how terrible they are, or how unlovable they are. My work is to bring them back to the time when they knew how to really love themselves.
-Louise L. Hay
I believe perfection is a relative term. A painter will paint a picture and only display it once he/she believes it is perfect, and someone else will come along and criticize that same painting. So this article will mean different things to different people.
We were all born perfect, or magnificent. And as we got older we were bombarded with all sorts of concepts of how we should behave, what we should and shouldn’t do or say, how we should dress, what we should strive for, etc. And the bombarding still continues today, the media circus continually portrays images of how we should look, what we should eat, etc.
When nobody around you seems to measure up, it’s time to check your yardstick. – Bill Lemley
I am continually amazed at how we are always comparing ourselves to other people, even people we have never met. We are all unique, so why the comparison? Most of us are taught this at a very young age, especially when we are misbehaving. Our parents would say something like, ‘Look at so & so, you don’t see them misbehaving’, or, ‘why can’t you be more like him/her.’ Our parents aren’t to blame for this, it’s just the way things are done these days, but we have the power to change how things are done.
Being a parent I am becoming more and more aware of the immense responsibility I have in determining what type person young Adam will become, and how the things I say and the way I behave will affect his concept of life. I believe the best thing I can do is be an example to him. It’s no good I tell him one thing and do another. Actually, the same applies to anyone who has any form of leadership role; a director, a manager, a teacher, etc. Lead by what we do, not by what we say.
So, by believing in our own magnificence, we can influence those close to us in immensely positive ways. And I don’t mean we should strut around with our chests puffed out and be all arrogant. I mean we should humbly get on with life knowing we were created perfect, and that all those around us were created perfect. And any imperfections we see can be changed, after all, they weren’t there when we were born.
Something else I read, ‘What is a concept but a thought to which it’s maker gives meaning of his own?’ – A Course in Miracles
Our self concepts can be changed at any time we want them to, it’s really just a matter of belief.
So next time you look in the mirror say, ‘I am magnificent!‘, and do this every time you look in the mirror, because YOU are!











I have always been fascinated by the topic free will. I have had numerous conversations with many people, my very first article I ever wrote was even titled, 
